What NOT to say….

I love The Huffington Post, it’s just an online newspaper where it shares stories from around the web. But I’m always finding interesting articles. The latest one that caught my attention was this one, titled “9 Things Never to Say to the Parents of a Newborn.

I feel like EVERYONE I know is pregnant or just had a baby, so I THINK this would relate to A LOT of you, or will relate to you soon. Oh and congrats to all of my friends that are preggo or just had a little one, I love talking to you about your experience and it makes me want to be pregnant again!!! Did my husband just pass out?? HAHAHA!! Not an announcement peeps….and see #8 on the list of the article. πŸ˜‰

Seriously though, I felt like this list was very comprehensive. I think I may have gotten every statement/question on that list except the last one: “Is having a baby worth all you gave up for it?” If anyone EVER had the gall to ask me that I might no wait I would punch them in the face.

I’d like to add a few more to this list:

1. Aren’t you bored on maternity leave? I mean don’t you just have all this extra time since he sleeps all the time?

2. Do you nap when the baby naps? I wish I could do that during my day.

Those are the only other two I can really think of that I also got in addition to most of those on the list. But really those wereΒ few and far between. Mostly, people were respectful and just wanted to know when we were ready for visitors.

But in the future if you aren’t sure what to say to parents with a newborn this list is one you might want to study before saying anything.

And in answer to the #1 question you are all thinking now about us…aka #8 on the list…the answer is hopefully in a couple of years…vague enough for you all. πŸ˜‰

And now because this post is full of newborn talk here are some pictures of my newborn….almost 13 months ago.

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Happy BIRTHday

I can’t believe Grayson is six weeks old! Time really does fly by, I wish they could be little and snuggle on my chest forever, but I am so excited for all the stages in his life, to see him grow and develop his own unique personality. Even though he is almost two months old his birth story is still very fresh in my mind….

On Monday, March 4th I was two days past my due date and had a scheduled doctor appointment that morning at 930. However, in the middle of the night I had minor contractions off and on….nothing crazy but I had been having early labor for about a week and was hoping this was the real thing. So at 8 am I called the midwife to see if I could get in earlier because I thought perhaps I was in labor even though my contractions were still about ten minutes about and were not really increasing in pain. The midwife on call, Susan, decided to just meet me at the office to check me instead of having me go into the hospital. Mind you this is the THIRD time we were going in to be checked thinking we were in labor (other times were false alarms, my bad). So Susan checked me and I was still at 3cm and 90% effaced (which I was the week before), she said I was just still in early labor. At that point she asked if we were interested in an elective induction. We talked about it and we decided we really didn’t want to be induced unless medically necessary, so we went on with our appointment which ended with an ultrasound. I believe once you pass your due date they have you do an ultrasound just to make sure everything is still ok. So we did the ultrasound and waited in the waiting room for Susan to give us the ok to leave. I remember sitting there will Curt discussing going back into work and when will this baby come. When Susan called us back to her office we sat down and she said “well, looks like you will be induced today.” I think my mouth dropped open. “Why?” The ultrasound showed that my amniotic fluid was too low, and that it was no longer safe for the baby to be inside and it was time to come out! We were shocked! Here we were thinking about going back into work not having a baby today! Susan said to go on over to the hospital and check in and she would be over in a little bit. I was freaking out just a little but Curt calmed me down and we made our phone calls to our parents to tell them the news.

We drove to the parking garage and got checked in, they took us back to room 621 which I think was a good sign since 21 is my favorite number. It was about 45 minutes before anyone came in to start anything. Finally, our nurse got things going and got me all hooked up. Susan wanted to break my water and start pictocin. Pitocin started around 1230 or so. I figured it would be awhile before any contractions or anything so Curt went to the cafeteria with my parents to get something to eat. I am not kidding you as soon as he left my contractions got so painful. He came back and I was not pleased I felt like he had been gone forever! I think he was shocked I was in such pain so soon. I was already asking for an epidural. Curt still hadn’t eaten so he ran out to the waiting room to finish eating quick and when he got back I was in so much pain. I was not ladylike at all and was constantly cursing because the epidural guy was taking forever! Also, we had a bad nurse, she was like some hippie that kept trying to hold my hand and she talked so soft she was so annoying. In hindsight, maybe she was awesome and I was just so irritated and in pain I didn’t like her…

When we took our childbirth classes they talk about using nice music and focus on breathing…well all I can say is screw all that. I couldn’t focus on anything nor did I want someone sitting there saying hee hee hoo…breathe breathe…for me during the pain it was like OMG WHEN IS THIS OVER followed by a lot of colorful curse words. πŸ™‚ FInally, the anesthegolist arrived, thank God! All I remember was saying how can you put a huge a$$ needle in my back when I’m having contractions and then I would drop the f bomb….like I said I was not a lady during this time. πŸ™‚ he just kept saying no worries it will be fine….and then I saw him smile every time I said the F word which was about every two minutes because my contractions just picked up in the matter of 20 minutes. Finally, I got my epidural which was HEAVEN! It took him a few tries but once it was in it was wonderful! I don’t know why you would not have one, it was the best thing ever! Once I got that we did have just a minor scare my heart rate and the baby’s heart rate dropped a lot. But they gave me something and all was well. After all that I was checked and my nurse was surprised to find me already at about 8 cm. that’s why my contractions were so bad, I just went from 3cm to 8cm in the matter of about 45 minutes. She said that it wouldn’t be long before we would be pushing. So for about an hour Curt and I just hung out peacefully since I was not in pain. It was so weird, I could still feel my legs and I could tell when a contraction was happening but it wasn’t painful. Finally, the midwife in training (Laci), came in. She was in school to be a midwife and Susan asked if it would be ok for her to deliver Gray. We loved Laci, so no worries on that end, Susan would be there the whole time just in case though. Anyways, Laci checked me and it was time to push! We were surprised we had heard how first labors take hours and hours and we had only been there for about four hours. Laci did warn us that it could be anywhere from one to three plus hours of pushing….UGH I told Curt I pray to God I do not have to push for three hours! Not fun! Well, low and behold I only had to push for 45 minutes…and I pushed every other contraction because Grays heart rate was better when I took breaks. I think all the nurses and midwives were shocked at how fast I had progressed and how fast I was at pushing. Before I knew it all these people came in. Nurses for me, nurses for Gray and then some more. There were so many people in there! I must say that had I not gotten the epidural I think would have really ruined the moment for me. I was so glad I was sane and able to focus on Gray and getting him here as opposed to being in terrible pain. One thing I wanted to do was pull him out and place him on my chest, however when that time came the cord was loosely around his neck so I wasn’t able to do that. But he was placed on my chest immediately and they did his first checks all right there as opposed to taking him away right away.

At 5:24 pm Grayson Tiernan Aucutt was born. It was amazing, it was a blur. He was screaming when he came out and as soon as we talked to him he stopped it was magical. And Curt cut the cord! πŸ™‚ He got an Apgar score of 8/9 which is really good. 10 is the best. So he was able to stay on me for about an hour. Then they took him and did all the weighing and measuring etc. he was 6lbs 10 oz and 19 inches long. We were shocked at how tiny he was! I thought for sure we would have a 7 or 8 pound baby!

Curt went out to tell everyone the good news while they finished on me….and again another reason I’m all for the epidural as I had a 3rd degree tear…OUCH! I cringe at the thought of that being fixed with no medicine! I won’t go into anymore details on that but needless to say it wasn’t good…

So after we had time to be with Grayson and I tried to breastfeed our family was finally able to come back and meet him for the first time. It was so great finally being able to share his name and have everyone meet our little man.

So all in all my labor was actually pretty easy. Aside from the brief scare with our heart rates and the terrible contractions for about an hour…I will take it. I was in labor for only about 5 hours and that includes pushing time. From all we have heard and read that’s rare, so I’d say we were pretty lucky. Now, my recovery that on the other hand was terrible. And I would say was worse than my labor! I won’t go into anything but just know my recovery SUCKED!

But at the end we have this amazing little boy that we created. He is healthy, growing and we couldn’t be more happy or blessed.

Here are a few photos of Grayson on his BIRTHday.

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Introducing…..

We are so happy to introduce you to our son!

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Yes, that’s why I have been MIA the past few weeks. On March 4th at 5:24pm this little man came into the world and stole our hearts. On Monday he will be 4 weeks old already! I will share his birth story later but for now here are some pictures of our little man.

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Happy New Year and Bump Update!

I hope you all had a wonderful New Years Eve and a great start to 2013. We of course are very excited for 2013, as 2013 is the year we will be expanding our family by one! And let me tell you, it feels like time is flying! I have been very fortunate to have all last week off and will finally go back to work tomorrow. We have been able to get a lot done here around the house, as well as spend time with lots of family over the holiday. I think we are both feeling the time crunch that Little Man will make his appearance fairly soon, and that we have lots to do. We have completely reorganized the kitchen and storage room and next weekend we will tackle his nursery. Our weekends are already filling up, so we are trying to make good use of our time as a family of two. Here are some things on our list the next few weeks.

1. Paint and decorate the upstairs bath
2. Organize Little Mans room
3. Make and freeze meals for maternity leave
4. Get carpets professionally cleaned
5. Put away, wash etc. all things for Little Man
6. Go out on some dates and enjoy our time as a family of two. πŸ™‚

I know things will come up to add to that list, but those are our goals the next 60 days or less! πŸ™‚

Below is my 31 week update, please excuse the grunge look, I have another photo of me and my sisters where I look a little more presentable. πŸ™‚

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How far along? 31 Weeks, 3 days
Maternity clothes? Yes
Stretch marks? No
Sleep: Some nights are better than others
Best moment this week: Ringing in 2013! Is the year we will welcome our little man, and we are getting closer and closer.
Miss anything? Sleeping on my stomach, being able to walk up our millions of flights of stairs without getting completely out of breath.
Movement: Lots! Big rolls and kicks, and it seems he has found a punching bag in my bladder. πŸ™‚
Food cravings: Steak, fish, and lots and lots of sweets! Always the same!
Anything making you queasy or sick: Nope
Have you started to show yet: Yes!
Gender: BOY! Little Man, as I like to call him. πŸ™‚
Labor Signs: No thank goodness, but I have had a lot of Braxton Hicks lately.
Belly Button in or out? In
Wedding rings on or off? On except at night I’ve been taking off all my rings.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Both. Shout out to my wonderful husband here, for putting up with me the last 6 months. He has truly been a Saint and I am so thankful he has put up with my weird cravings, moods, and everything else. This is love. πŸ™‚
Looking forward to: We finally start childbirth prep classes this week. They are four weeks long, two hours each week. I can’t wait to be a step closer!

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Cheers to you all and I hope you have a great 2013!

Monday Musings

**Sorry I haven’t posted my 26 or 27 week belly post, I hope to do so later this week. But can you believe, I’m 27 weeks pregnant?! Eek, time is flying, can’t wait to meet this little guy πŸ™‚
**Today at a local grocery store I heard over the intercom that if you buy a candy bar during check out they will donate a dollar to fight Juvenile Diabetes….shouldn’t it be more like buy a pound of apples or something instead of a candy bar? I’m confused.
**I live in Iowa and today the temperature was 62! I wore short sleeves and no coat to work, I really dislike this weather. Not that I want a big snow storm, but is a little hard to enjoy my Christmas lights and hot chocolate when it feels like Spring.
**Speaking of Christmas….I almost had a mini panic attack this weekend when I realized we still had no Christmas decor up and we have barely started our holiday shopping! So I got most of our Christmas stuff up,aside from the tree and I have forced Curt to start our shopping with me. I am a big planner and scheduler….this should be done by now!
**I can barely contain my excitement because tomorrow our carpet is getting installed in the basement! Curt will be done! He has done amazing on the basement and I can’t wait to show you!
**One last thing….thank goodness the Duchess Kate is pregnant! Congrats to the couple, but man people were all over her for months on “bump watch,” give the poor Duchess a break now!

Monday Musings

**So I didn’t like my 19 week photo today and now my hubby isn’t here so you will have to wait a few extra days for my weekly baby bump photo.
**it always amazes me how sometimes I can’t seem to dress myself, I can’t tell you how many times I have needed Curt to zip me up, tie a bow in the back of a dress help with a clasp etc. what do people do when they live alone? Just not buy those items? Or maybe they are more flexible and can reach back there?
**So far during this pregnancy I think one of the hardest things has been choosing a daycare. I think that was more overwhelming then trying to think of names, choose a doctor, pick paint color etc. Choosing the place where our child will go for 8 hours a day, choosing a place where they will see my child more than me, it makes me sick to think about. Luckily, we found one we both love….but look for a blog post soon on working moms and my thoughts.
**Speaking of pregnancy….I really haven’t shared much about it yet. As you know, I’m 19 weeks. Almost half way done! Keep cooking baby! πŸ™‚ The first trimester was rough, I was pretty sick and exhausted all the time. I don’t know why it’s called morning sickness, it should be called all day/don’t try and ever get anything done/good luck getting through work sickness…just saying. I ended up taking a prescription to help three times a day! Eventually I got down to one a day, then one as needed and I haven’t taken any of the pills since about week 13, so I am VERY happy to be well into my 2nd trimester and feeling much better.
**We are also going with A Midwife vs. an OBGYN, it wasn’t a hard decision and I couldn’t be happier with our decision. Again, I will share more on why we chose that route later.
**I am currently listening to 90s alternative/grunge on my Pandora….Hootie just came on. Awesome.
**Have you decorated for Fall yet? I have, my owls are out, my Halloween decor is out, my pumpkins are ready to be carved and my Fall scented candle is on. I LOVE Fall!
**Curt and I always try and go to a scary movie around Halloween, I love Fall but I am not one for dressing up and going out, we also don’t get too many kids in our neighborhood for trick or great night. However, that doesn’t mean I don’t prepare and buy a ton of candy for the two kids that come to our door….I can’t help if we have leftovers….don’t worry Baby A loves candy so no worries on it going old.
**As I mentioned we try and see a scary movie every Halloween, and the past several years we have gone to Paranormal Activity. This year is no different, we will be going to Paranormal Activity 4 this year, 4! Eek! We love them!
**In a couple weeks we will register for Baby A and I am so excited! What are some things first time moms need, I need help!