I was recently asked how I know was feeling with daycare and being a working mom now that it’s been EXACTLY a year (he started on May 28th 2013, a day before my 27th birthday) that Grayson has been in daycare. He didn’t start daycare until he was just shy of 3 months old, as I was very fortunate to enjoy 12 weeks of blissful maternity leave. It’s no secret (or maybe it is on here) that I had/have a hard time adjusting to the fact that he goes to daycare for about 9 hours a day. I work 7.5 hours but when you factor in drop off and pick up he is there from 7:15 to about 4:15 five days a week, that’s 45 hours a week that someone else is with my child. I’m not going into the reasons as to why he goes to daycare and I work, it’s just something that we need for our family right now. It is what it is, is my motto. So has it gotten easier? What do I think? How am I adjusting now? How is he? So many questions with not so easy answers. So before I answer the BIG questions on how I’m doing…a few comments/issues on what I have experienced in society the past year….the following are thing that I have encountered either through social media, in person etc. I don’t think people think about what they are saying or how it will affect me it’s their opinion but these are my opinions and thoughts. Please do not take offense.
- I absolutely hate it when people say things like it must have gotten easier, or don’t worry it will get easier. It never gets easier….it just IS. You deal with it. YOU learn to live it and adjust.
- Another comment that I have received from a variety of people is “I would hate to have someone else raise my children….or I don’t get how people would rather have other’s raise their own children.” I’ve gotten this even in a passing conversation where I don’t think the person meant it to infuriate me. Do I think the daycare workers are “raising” my child?? NO! Do I think they have a part in his life… YES! But in the end Curt and I are the ones that set the rules, we are the ones the get him up, put him to bed, play with him, feed him, clothe him, bathe him, set limits etc. We decide about vaccinations, we decide what he will eat, we decide! WE are RAISING HIM.
- Or some comments about working mom’s vs SAHM mom’s vs single moms etc. The big MOMMY WARS on what is better for your child. I do not want this to turn into an argument so all I will say on this matter is that I think every parent/caregiver out there is trying to do what’s best for your child and what works for your family. It’s a hard, hard job but a very rewarding job. What you choose to do in the manner of raising your child is up to you as long as they are healthy, happy and safe I think you are doing a great job! PEOPLE…. life is hard, parenting is hard, we judge ourselves so much already that we don’t need other’s judging us all the time too! Let’s respect each other and what we do (as long as it’s good things and not hurting your child or others).
So now that I’ve said that piece…to the matter at hand. How has it been going?? I would say to the innocent person that asks…fine. It’s going fine. This is our life and it’s working. The older Grayson gets the more and more I get to see just how daycare is affecting him. I think he LOVES it. I think he loves seeing all his little friends every day. I think he is so stimulated there. Much more stimulated then I am on the weekends ha! They are so structured at this daycare and I love it. When I drop him off he smiles and reaches for his friends. He hugs them and kisses them, he is learning to share and play and be patient. It’s fun to see him learn and grow and play in another environment then our own house. Now, he does have a little stranger danger/separation anxiety but not to the point and it has been hard to drop him off when he cries…but it doesn’t last long and he is soon running around playing with his friends. Seeing him grow and have fun makes me feel better. My work helps a lot, it’s a very flexible position and they really understand a good work/life balance and I SO appreciative of that as I know I’m very lucky. My husband has been so supportive and patient with me adjusting to this new way of life too. We make it work and our child is happy, healthy and growing. We have a house, two great jobs, we can provide healthy organic meals, we have health insurance…we are indeed lucky. So almost a year to the day since he has started daycare and I’m surviving. 🙂
And just because….here are some pictures of him at daycare a few weeks back.
Coming soon: 5 things I love about Daycare and 5 things I hate about Daycare.